Of course there's the (little bit of) wisdom from experience and the sense that the craziness won't last forever. The comfort of having survived postpartum before, and the knowledge that everyone will eventually stop (or at least calm it) with the leaking/spraying/spitting body fluids. A slumbering toddler down the hall when the baby is crying AGAIN shows that there is light at the end of the tunnel. The same toddler, when she wakes and runs and talks and feeds herself, reminds you that two short years ago she was the baby, and makes you want to savor the newborn snuggles even more.
Even in a toddler, there's a buddy and a helper. Someone to get the wipes when you've already started to change the baby and realize that the new box is across the room. Someone to chat with, someone to provide a bit of comic relief and entertainment during what might otherwise have been 10 long and lonely hours while dad is at work.
And, of course, the toddler still needs to eat and still likes to play outside, so an inner and previously unknown strength can be summoned to get oneself up off the couch from the perpetual nursing post, and eat meals with some regularity and occasionally change out of pajamas (all unheard of in the first go-round).
The neediness of both age-groups, toddler and newborn, is an anecdote to the weariness that comes from caring for the other. Snuggling and rocking the wee one is a welcome rest after chasing a toddler, and the hours and hours of nursing are less monotonous when simultaneously singing nursery rhymes and reading stories (at least until the day the toddler requests "Corduroy Goes to the Doctor" 18 times in a row).
The I-think-my-heart-might explode-from-love feelings from round 1 are nothing compared to watching your little one award her third-ever smile at big sister's antics, or at hearing big sister say "oh, I love you so so much, Doolia!"
And so to my frazzled self two years ago who thought our dreams of a large(ish) family were a huge mistake (and any other first-time moms feeling that they could never handle a second), two is better than one.
I totally agree. This transition has been SO much easier than it was the first time :-)
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